You are also legally an adult and I dont care for the people who say that when you are under their roof you follow their rules because shit like that helps to harbour abuse. You are being stopped from doing something because of your sex. Your brother should either not be allowed out or you should be allowed out the same amount as he is, its blatant sexism, clearly your parents don't see it that way but that's the truth. The only bit that's really rubbing me the wrong way is the fact your brother has been allowed to go out and you haven't, the fact that women are targeted more doesn't mean you deserve to be punished for someone you can't control, which is what is happening. Your dad is kinda right because he's trying to keep you safe but at at same time stopping you from going out is not going to change the fact that women still get raped and attacked, by stopping you from going out all he is doing is making you resent him, if you were with a friend and it really is quite a short walk not as bad, when drunk, a lot worse, you can get trackers for your phone so maybe you could try that? Life 360 is good, you don't have to pay and its quite accurate, also maybe getting a taxi back to the house for like 5 to 10 pounds isnt so bad If it means you are allowed to go and if it will be safer, honestly I feel safer walking than I do in a taxi (I absolutely hate them) but that's just me, also if you are with a friend I don't think it's as bad. I'm fed up of not being able to do things and have the freedom my brother does all because im a women.Ĭan someone please tell me what to do? I have plans with my friend this weekend that we've been making for months and are both excited over.
My dad always seems so focused on the fact i could be attacked and all it does is make me more anxious that it might happen despite the statics of it actual happening. I will admit, i could have handled it better, i honestly didn't think its a big deal since my brother has been going out since he was 16 and they never cared, even when he didn't come home till the next day. (For context they wanted me to take an uber or an taxi home which would have been £30-40, i'm not spending that amount of money when the bus is £2, they then suggested taking one from the town to home but that would have been £5-10 which is ridiculous considering its a short walk) I was then called naive and told i wasn't allowed to go out considering the lack of thought i put into it and that they no longer trusted me to come home as i said due to me forgetting to mention i was coming home with a friend. I even googled the sexual assault crime index and roughly 30 out off 1000 women get sexual assulted in nottinghamshire (3%) and while that clearly not good, that is a chance im willing to bet on considering me and my friend would literally be walking home.
However i also recognise that the majority of sexual assaults never get reported. My dad then started going on about how all the girls raped and kidnapped didn't expect it either, however i've never heard of a sexual assault or kidnapping, i even checked the town news (the only thing was a fight outside a pub a year ago). They then accused me of lying, then added that the walk from the retail park to the house was 40 min (it isn't, more like 20 min, 25 if we're stumbling all over the place). I then told them that a friend would be walking with me, and we would take the bus further down the line and then walk along main roads (i had forgot to mention that she would have been coming home with me). Basically the plan was that i'd go out and then take the bus back into my town, where i would walk home (about 20 min), i would have to walk through an underpass and down a deserted road. I have an older brother (19) and he's never faced the problems i am having right now. Hi! So i'm 18 and want to go out with my friends clubbing (i live in nottingham for context, which i know sounds bad) and too put it simply my dad wont let me.
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